"𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝗯𝗼𝘆?"

"𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗴𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗯𝗼𝘆?"

These are questions I get with a pretty odd level of regularity, and even more bizarre, it often is women asking me.

You see, I have three daughters(baby not pictured), and when people find that out, it's almost automatic to ask me those questions. Many times right in front of my daughters.

I mostly give people the benefit of the doubt and simply reply no, but it's frustrating that people continue to perpetuate inequality.

Because the implication with that question is that somehow my life is less satisfying without a son, or I'm somehow less of a "man" unless I have a son and give him my name, or that somehow fatherhood is less meaningful with only daughters...

The fact is that nothing could be further from the truth. I'm a very proud "Girl Dad," and I could not be any happier with a son than I am with my three daughters.

So while my answer to nearly anyone that asked me it "No." My implied answer to your implied question is: "No, I love my daughters very much, and implying that I feel less rewarded by them and would want to keep procreating so that I can have a Son is outdated and ignorant. Do better."

We still live in a world where opportunities are given to some and not to others. Opportunities are the great equalizer. Comment/questions like this only continue that narrative of inequality.

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